You weren’t there. Don’t try to take his words NOR MINE as gospel. Just because someone THINK they made it clear doesn’t mean they actually did physically.
Writing about your internal monologue is more vivid and detailed than what is actually happening in physical space.
No it’s not and I realize before I post it that yet I put it in there anyways. It was my choice to leave it in. Is it because of the high emotion I’m riding right now that is making me do that which is most likely a mistake?
But I feel it is important to the narrative. At least to me. At least right now.
Sexual assault is not something that you, the perpetrator, gets to define. Dwuds felt sexually assaulted, that’s all there is to it. Leave it alone.
I am finally able to said my side with references. Don’t think I don’t have sympathy for the guy. I still stand by what I’ve said earlier about Dwuds being a nice guy and I honestly think he really is super duper nice aside from this debacle shitfest bad Seinfeld episode that’s happening around me and him, but throwing around sexual assault accusation is not cool.
I’ve been kind, I’ve been more polite than I should have, but I’m done with that.
Over the past year on three separate occasions, Grisser (http://grisser.tumblr.com/ / http://www.furaffinity.net/user/grisser ) has sexually assaulted me, harrased me with private messages and is publicly posting about it, trying to shift the blame to me.
I’m posting this as a warning to everyone else, to respond to his questions and get my side of the story out, so that no one else will have to go through what I did.
This is an honest question. If I’ve done this to you. Please join in. I want to know how many people I’ve done this to.
Also good on you finally making this public so I can actually reply. jeebus.
1st Incident: “I’m going to hug you till you get a boner”
Who fucking says that in real life?? Oh yeah, someone who REPLYING TO THE YOUR OWN JOKE TWEET YOU MADE NOT TOO LONG BEFORE WE MET. I was acknowledging YOUR joke that you made. Holy fuck.
2nd Incident: “It is NOT okay for you to touch me in that way” and it was “Not safe for work, or anywhere else”
This was totally my bad and I’m sorry. I get flirty sometimes and I didn’t mean it. Nothing malicious was meant. I’m really sorry I made you uncomfortable. Thing is I do this all the time to my other friends and they know we were just laughing and joking around. It was my mistake that I did it to you and I’m sorry. And by this point I had no idea what was wrong. I was oblivious and that is my bad.
3rd Incident: As I went outside to look for my friend, he spotted me and approached me for a hug (completely ignoring the previous 2 incidents)
THAT’S WHAT I DO! I HUG PEOPLE I THOUGHT WERE MY FRIEND WHO I WAS HAPPY TO SEE.
I gave a myriad of reasons as to why (I’m sweaty, I don’t want to touch you, I’m looking for someone), but he still went in for the hug. I again went limp and tried my best to make it awkward as possible. He then proceeded to pull my hand and try to introduce me to his friends as I looked for an exit, spotted my friend and left, doing my best to ignore him for the rest night.
I THOUGHT WE WERE STILL FRIENDS. ALL YOU HAD TO DO WAS SAY STOP AND PUSH ME AWAY. Christ. Sorry for trying to introduce you to my other friends who I thought had the same interests as you! I thought you were just shy. THIS is where actual communication comes into play. Do you think I did that to torture you just for fun???
I was so upset by how trivial he made his assaults sound that I couldn’t even hold my phone I was shaking so badly
THAT WASN’T ABOUT YOU! Jesus.
Also, I don’t even find you even the least bit attractive. I’m serious. You’re a scrawny kid with scraggly beard and huge ass nose. Completely not my type.
Did I invade your personal space? Yes I did and I am sorry. I thought I was horsing around with my friend. But accusing me of sexual assault is pretty damn serious and you need be god damn sure before you dish it out.